Prompt – A time you wanted to be older than you were.
T. G. Smith Elementary School could no longer contain my academic prowess, so I began the new school year at Central Junior High School in Springdale, Arkansas, saying goodbye to Ms. Hayes and Ms. Parker’s sixth grade class. I signed up for band because it felt right, like something that might make me more adult and more complete. I imagined music, rhythm, and belonging. I imagined the part of me that always felt outside finally finding a door in with music.
Instead, I marched. That was it. Marching drills in the heat, day after day, carrying an instrument I could not play while pretending any of this made sense. No music. No sound. Just lines and formations, like the military, across a field that never seemed to end. I waited for the wonder to arrive with the community. There was no pulse. The moment never came.
Just as I began finding my way around Central, the boxes came out again at my house. We packed our life, taped our stories shut, and pointed the car toward upstate New York. Big surprise… another move. I traded the armpit of Arkansas for what felt like deliverance country. What could possibly go wrong?
I had chosen the trombone back in Arkansas. I liked the idea of it, as it seemed bold and confident with a little swagger. When I arrived at Peru Central School — the word Central stayed with me like a tired friend — the kids in band had already learned to read sheet music. This allowed them to squeak and squawk with their instruments. They were ahead of me in ways I did not want to confess. When the band director asked if I could read music, I said yes with the false confidence of a seventh grader who would rather choke than be seen as weak. I mistook silence and lying for strength. Large mistake.
He placed me in fourth chair. A compliment, apparently, as I could not play a single note. My greatest skill was making quiet tromboner jokes in my head to keep myself from panicking while I watched the kid beside me glide through his part as I mirrored every movement. I slid when he slid. I was always a second behind, always wrong. The sound was chaos. My body knew it. My face pretended it did not.
When the fall concert arrived, I wanted to disappear into the metal of the chair. I wanted adulthood. I wanted choice. Why did I have to play a damn instrument at all. I wanted the privilege of walking away and saying no. I wanted to choose absence like so many adults did when things became inconvenient. But I sat there, present, exposed, and stuck.
I stayed silent. I copied the player beside me and never blew air into my horn. I pretended participation. I survived by vanishing. I do not remember how the semester ended, only that I held on with stubbornness and made a quiet promise to myself. Never again.
Behind the awkwardness, the shame, the noise that never became music, something else formed. Not a lesson. Not a tidy moment. More like a bruise that refused to fade. I began to see that life kept handing me roles that did not fit, and I kept trying to wear them anyway. Good kid. Good student. Good soldier. Smile. Perform. Pretend it is all fine. Pretend you know the notes. Pretend this is who you are. But pretending had a weight.
It pressed into my chest. It made my shoulders ache. It turned every room into a test that I could not study for and had no way of passing. I started to suspect that every lie I told to survive was costing me some part of myself I might one day need. Somewhere inside that seventh grade kid, sweating through another rehearsal and praying the song would end, a quieter truth began to move. Maybe the problem was not that I failed. Maybe the problem was that I kept disappearing in order to pass.
A voice whispered. Tell the truth. Tell it even if your face burns. Tell it even if someone rolls their eyes. Tell it because silence eats at you from the inside out.
I wanted to be an adult in that moment so I could make a choice to vanish. Now, I know what I need to do as a “real” adult is to slowly and painfully come back.
Muddled Soma 